Remind me to never have a traditional wedding, k? k.
Still killin’ it
Last night I had a dream that I was sitting on a bench wearing a leather jacket listening to punk rock. That was it. That was like my entire dream.
The Sidekicks US Headlining Tour With Sundials, Dowsing
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Yes All Women is such a powerful movement and ever since it surfaced I’ve been thinking of all the stories in which I could share on this topic. Believe me, I’ve got an unlimited arsenal. Though it simply keeps bringing me back to this. Remember that time that dude told me he tries to look up my dresses? And it’s my fault for the way I dress? But don’t worry…he’s not going to rape me. Yeah…
When this happened and I started talking about it a lot of people kept saying, “That’s just the kind of guy he is. He’s really nice. He always talks like that.” It’s that kind of dismissive behavior that allows men like that to feel entitled to talk to women in that way. I don’t care what kind of guy this dude is. If he thinks it’s okay to talk to ladies like that he is not a good guy. He could say it to ten million ladies or just one and it still doesn’t make it acceptable.
Almost a year later and I still am not over it. I am self-conscious every time I get dressed. I pull my lace shorts down as low as I can for maximum under dress coverage. I sit down and see how high my dresses will go. I am generally discomforted because of one dude being a scum bag. That’s all it took. This and that time a dude tried to abduct me. (Thank goodness for knives and being agile.)
Plenty men have said strange, inappropriate and sexual things to me. But none of them have ever made me feel quite like that dude did. I simply cannot shake it. I once felt safe and comfortable, but now I am always on edge and overly self-conscious.
I realize on the scale of everything this is pretty small, but it still made a negative impact on my sense of well being and it’s only one story, ya’ know? I can’t truly wrap my head around the millions upon millions of women with far bigger issues. It’s a strange way of feeling like something so personal has been taken from you because one (or many) men felt entitled to do so.
There’s great power in bringing awareness to the masses. Every person (female or otherwise) has felt sexually victimized and we as mankind need to stop making excuses for the victimizers. This is such a huge and delicate issue and it’s so incredible to see so many people sharing their stories. Now if only it would all stop.